I might as well admit it: Everything scares me. 😱 I’ve learned to “Do it scared”, but there was a time I didn’t handle it well at all. 😳
When I was young, I got stuck in a cycle of “threat avoidance”. I let my fears stop me from doing things I wanted to do. Eventually I realized hiding under a rock is no way to go through life! And so, I had to work on overcoming my fears and anxiousness. (If you’ve read many of my posts you’ve probably noticed I’ve had to work on a lot of stuff!) 😆
Hey, if I can do it, you can do it too! That’s why I write these posts and also why I became a coach. Having someone to help you look at things in different ways, and also to give support, can change everything!
Disclaimer: When I say “anxiety”, I am talking about the feelings of anxiousness we all have on occasion. I am not talking about anxiety disorder, because I am not a mental health professional. Implementing any ideas on this site is at your own risk. You are the expert on your own life, after all! 🙂
Now that we got that out of the way, read on for my tips for getting past fear and anxiety!
#1 Get a Bigger Why
It isn’t easy to push past our comfort zones, right? Our brains are always going to try to keep us in a place that feels safe and cushy. When we are doing something new, the critter brain activates and tries to stop us in our tracks! 😨
The good news is we can get past our mental blocks. But in order to break through the fear barrier, we have to really want it. The more afraid you are to move forward, the bigger your “why” has to be. Otherwise, it becomes easier in the moment to procrastinate, or throw in the towel all together.
When you’re feeling too scared to move ahead, get out your journal (heck, you could brainstorm on a napkin if need be!) and ask yourself these questions:
- What good reasons do I have for moving forward on this?
- What will my life look like once I have accomplished this?
- How will I feel? What will I be able to experience? What will other people see when they look at me? What will my relationships be like?
- What if I don’t do this thing I’m afraid of?
- What might I miss out on? How will that feel? How will it affect my relationships and my loved ones if I stay stuck?
Okay, you might need a few napkins for all of that.😅 Attach some feeling to your goals! Know what moving forward will do for you and what you have to risk by staying stuck.
When you want anything bad enough, you’ll do what it takes, even if you have to go through some mental pain and nausea to get it. 🤢 #beenthere
#2 Hold Yourself as Capable
Sometimes it feels really scary to try something new because there is risk. Risk of embarrassment, rejection, and/or failure… it can be scary to put ourselves out there, not knowing how it’s going to shake out. Holding yourself as capable can help.
In other words, think of yourself as someone who “can do this”. Easier said than done when fear is creeping in, telling you “no, you can’t!”, right? Try this:
- Think of a time when you were a beginner at something. It was probably scary and awkward at first, but as time went on you got better and better at it. Remind yourself of how you were successful in the learning process, and that you will be successful again. It will get easier and won’t always feel scary.
- Envision the future you who is no longer scared. This future you is successful and comfortable doing the things that seem overwhelming at the moment. What would he or she want to tell the present you?
- Remember every successful person has been through embarrassment, rejection, and failure. It comes with the territory! You aren’t any different than them, you just have to put in the work. You really are capable!
#3 Take the Focus Off Yourself
Often times, our fears have us spiraling inward. We wonder what people will think of us. We think of worse case scenarios of what could happen to us. And it all plays over and over again in our heads, pulling us deeper into the fear vortex.
To break out, we have to switch our focus outward. Who will benefit from you taking action on your fears? How can you be a contribution in someone else’s life by stepping out of your comfort zone? Practice putting your focus on serving others and see how much better you end up feeling!
#4 Do a Gratitude Reframe
When we have anxious feelings, a great way to stop them in their tracks is to focus on gratitude. 💡 Gratitude pulls you back to the present, whereas fear and anxiety are generally centered on future what-ifs.
Do you have a new opportunity that’s a little scary? Try reframing your thoughts! Instead of “Oh my word, why me? I can’t do this!” how about “I’m so fortunate to have this chance and the freedom to do it!”
Are there other people involved? Be grateful for them as well. 🤩 Think of all the ways your moving forward will benefit others, and how amazing it is YOU can make a difference!
If you’re a little stuck on this gratitude thing, just take a paper (or get yet another napkin, lol), and start brainstorming everything you’re thankful for. Even if at first all you come up with is “coffee, chocolate, and my dog”, it will start to get you in the right mindset. 😄 Any time you feel the fear coming on, use this gratitude exercise to switch your brain to a higher level of consciousness.
#5 Get Used to Chasing Butterflies 🦋
Often the feeling of butterflies is the stomach makes us want to shrink back. Let’s face it, it’s uncomfortable to be uncomfortable! We want to make it stop ASAP. 🤢 The problem is, everything we want is on the other side of our comfort zone!
We have to get used to feeling uncomfortable, or we’re just going to stay stuck. And believe me, the discomfort of “stuck” is far worse in the long run!
Try using butterflies as a signal you must push forward. Use them as a compass, a true north which assures you are on the path to growth. As they say, “Feel the fear and do it anyways!” Chase those butterflies and go get your dreams. 😘Often the feeling of butterflies in the stomach makes us shrink back. Instead, use butterflies as a signal you must push forward. Use them as a compass, a true north which assures you are on the path to growth. Chase those butterflies… Click To Tweet
So those are my 5 tips for moving past fear and anxiety. What one do you want to try first? And what tips do you have? Please share in the comments before you go!
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