Have you ever told yourself “I’m NEVER going to act that way again!”?
Maybe you lost your temper, or clammed up instead of saying what you needed to say. You said next time would be different for sure… until the next time came and it all played out the same way? 🤦♀️
“Never again is what you swore the time before.” -Policy of Truth by Depeche Mode 😜
And that, my friend, is how emotional patterns work. So, how exactly did we end up seemingly stuck in these ruts?
Psst… Usual Disclaimer Here! I am not a doctor or medical professional. This information is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease of mind or body. We aren’t talking mental illness here, just chatting about the emotions which we ALL have.
How Emotional Patterns Develop
As we all know, emotions can be painful. What do we do when we feel pain? Our automatic response is to protect ourselves. The most common defense when we feel emotional pain is to ignore, repress, or stuff negative emotions.
As children, we have limited resources, and it doesn’t help when our role models have poor ways of handling their negative emotions. For example, if you grew up with parents that would punish you every time you said something they didn’t like, you would quickly learn to keep your parents happy by not expressing your feelings whenever you thought it would upset them. This would start a pattern of not speaking your truth when the people around you could disapprove.
These patterns in our minds are like ruts in a gravel road. The more we go over them, the deeper the pattern becomes ingrained.
Can you see how a pattern that seemingly protected you as a child can damage relationships and limit potential as an adult?
What emotional patterns are you stuck in that are no longer serving you? Just think about it.
Change is Possible!
The good news is you can do much to change your patterns! Essential Oils can help. If you’re wondering how, go back to the first article in our Emotions series.
One of my favorite emotional oil blends is Inner Child. The sweet fragrance of Inner Child can be used aromatically to encourage you to connect with your authentic self. 🙂
And it does smell amazing, but remember to try it out during a quiet time before you try wearing it as perfume. As with all the emotionally balancing oils, it is possible to find some repressed emotions rising up to the surface when you first start using them. Because everyone’s experience is different, just take it slow. And remember, getting those feelings out is a good thing. 😉
In our next posts we will talk more about the purpose of emotions and how we can change the patterns that no longer serve us. Remember, these negative patterns are not you. You can find your authentic self.
P.S. If you are wondering how to get Inner Child or any of Young Living’s oils, click here!
To move on to Part 3 of our series, click here.
Thanks for reading!